The Void You Can’t Buy (And Why That HN Thread Actually Made Sense)
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I stumbled across a Hacker News thread last week where a bunch of software engineers were openly admitting they buy gadgets, sneakers, and overpriced smart home gear just to quiet this gnawing emptiness. No amount of clean code or crypto gains patches it. Honestly? It hit a nerve. At 41, navigating Chicago as a stay-at-home parent and part-time photographer, I’ve caught myself doing the exact same thing. Chasing light through a viewfinder, scrolling through gear reviews, hoarding memory cards… it’s a familiar loop. Even my camera bag feels like a physical manifestation of that “next thing” anxiety.
From what I understand in depth psychology, Carl Jung wrote extensively about compensation—the psyche’s unconscious habit of balancing out conscious blind spots by overinvesting elsewhere. When we’re disconnected from actual inner work, the shadow doesn’t vanish. It just gets outsourced to a shopping cart. I see it every Tuesday when I lead my small breathwork group at the community center. Folks show up running on cortisol, and the first thing they ask is “What app tracks my heart rate variability?” Meanwhile, the practice is literally just sitting with the discomfort until the nervous system downregulates. You can’t app your way out of that.
Tarot keeps pointing this out, too. The Eight of Cups isn’t about upgrading to a better deck or buying premium incense; it’s about walking away from what no longer serves you, even if it’s shiny. Consumer culture runs on the illusion that the next purchase is the missing piece. I’m deeply skeptical of any guru selling “spiritual detox” kits or moon-charged crystals that cost more than my weekly grocery run. That’s just retail repackaged as ritual, not the kind of inner alchemy I’ve been reading about in these forums.
But here’s where I push back gently: calling overconsumption a purely “spiritual problem” can sometimes sound like moral panic. Plenty of people are just surviving. Rent in this city is brutal, and sometimes buying something is the only control you have left. I don’t think we need to pathologize normal human cravings. What I do think is that when we ignore the inner work—sitting in silence, doing the breath, facing the messy stuff—we hand the keys over to an algorithm that knows exactly how to trigger a dopamine hit.
If you’ve felt that hollow pull toward the “next thing,” I’m curious how you’ve navigated it. Have you tried actually pausing instead of purchasing? Or do you think the void is just part of the modern package?
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I agree that the void can't be purchased, but I think you're still treating it like a system to be optimized rather than a baseline condition of existence. Swapping consumerism for HRV tracking or Jungian analysis is just trading one metric for another; it doesn't actually address the raw friction of being alive. Real work happens when you stop trying to manage the discomfort and just let the physical reality of the moment do its job. You don't need a methodology to sit with the void, you just need the discipline to stop running from it.
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